Adult life can be so serious. we are faced with many life changeing and sometime threatening decisions and we are expected to act fast. it's even more difficult when you are a sista; society expect so much from us that we literally walk on our toes for the rest of our lives. my mother is always drumming it into my head whenever im in my rebellous mood 'i didnt train you to be like this o' she always.
i feel the African setting is particularly tough on women. you are expected to be at your husband's beck and call, be a super mum, your in-laws nko, forget it. well they can all bite me because im not in for that. i do things my way. as far as im concerned im the main event, the show stopper (apologies to Shawn Micheals of WWE).
my pastor always says life is meant for living, loving and laughing. i like the laughing part.
am i being a philosopher queen today? that's the joy of writing, well in this case typing, your thoughts can take you to places you didnt even intend to go to.

here's wishing all the wonderful mums out there a happy belated mothers day. i think every day is mother's day because we rule the world!

had some visitors this evening. so fagged out playing hostess. must go to bed.

Busy, busy, busy is what i'll use to describe today. i didnt even know when it was time to go home. got home to discover that mimi wasnt feeling fine. had to take care of her showering her with all the TLC she can get. of course her sister was full of jealousy and rage so i had to squeeze some time in for her too.
was too exhausted after they went to bed. sorry im not my usual self today, i just dont take it well when any of my kids are down so i'll pass for tonight.

Had a beautiful time at church today. stopped by thereafter at an eatery for lunch. i always look forwad to days like this because i wont have to make lunch when we get home and besides everyone will be too tired and full and the kids will go straight to bed without all their antics.
i dont have the luxury of taking a nap, in fact my body has grown an immunity to afternoon nap, there's always something to do around the house.
work tomorrow, so had to get my stuff and the kids stuff ready for the week. they have just one week to go before vacation, i cant wait.
spent the rest of my evening just chilling and watching tv with my family.
see y'all tomorrow.

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Saturday, 28th March '09

I wish there was more than 24hrs in a day. Someone once said that if you sleep like a baby then you dont have one, how true. i have a walking alarm clock in the person of my 2 yr old daughther, whose name by the way is Anita. she has this annoying habit of coming into the room and giving me a painful 'tap'. her lines are depending on her needs....mum, i'm hungry (her favourite), mum water, hot, wee...the list is endless. talk about persistance, she can be on your case for as long as you decide to ignore her.

so today is water day and i prepared before hand tp put a bottle of water beside my bed just in case. when she came into the room and 'tapped' me severally, she eventually saw the water and started drinking. i was feeling really cool that i have finally got her when she started gaggling and splashing the water all over me. who says little children are innocent?? funny enough she doesnt even disturb her dad one bit hmm...

after spending half the morning cleaning and washing; i went to the market only to come back home to meet the house up side down. apperently, the kids invited the neighbours kids when i was out and they had a blast. i have resolved that i am definitely taking the little rascals to their grannies this hols.....DEFINITELY!!

Friday, 27th March 09

TGIF. i'll be using this acronym a lot so GET USED TO IT! The irony of it all is that i cant be a stay at home mum. for you grannies out there this is just a nice way of saying 'House wife'.the gals basically spent today planning for the weekend; we were comparing notes so no one will be left out of the weekly buy.
i think today is a good day to introduce y'all to my gal pals. we are 4 in number, all mothers (why do you think we have so much in common).
Gal Pal no. 1 - i'll call her mother Theresa ....MT for short. she likes playing mother to everyone just because she came before everyone else.
GP 2 - Mrs Macho - the cliche what a man can do a woman can do better was coined out just for her.
GP3 - Dodgy Jane(DJ) - she is nice and sweet but its easier to get through the eye of a needle than to get a straight forward answer from her. and of course moi who you already know by now. i wonder what you think about me? well, think no more.....i'm the type of person that thinks that everyone is subject to my opinion, which of course is the best come to think of it.
yes! you guess right im already in the friday mood.
got home feeling on top of the world. i bet if there was a trophy for the best wife in the world i will win it today. gave hubby everything he wanted and i mean everything. as for the kids i kinda put them in the background for a change. Nighty nite.

Thursday,26th March '09

One more day to freedom! had some customers come to the office for inspection. everyone was running helter skelter to get the place up & running.

wonders shall never end, shaggy came into the office all suited up......needless to say that he looked like a cricket; we had a good laugh though but i would have loved to tell him to stick to his good 'ol jeans and shirt.

at the end of the day the customers were happy with all the 'effizi' (stunt) we pulled.

on my way back to the house i was dreaming of a nice soak in the bath but i know it is all wishful thinking. little miss 2 yr old needed her mum and mimi my older daughter couldnt wait to tell me all the happenings at school today so super mum to the rescue.

hubby was home early so he helped out with some chores.

10:30pm so so tired sign out.

Wednesday, 25th March 09

Today is one of those days i dont feel like getting up in the morning. it must have been the heavy food i ate last night. i even got to work a little late and as usual shaggy was there to remind me to leave my house earlier. i felt like telling him to take his job and shove it where the sun dont shine.
nothing much to do; just generally went with the flow. you know the saying that time flies when you are busy , well today is the complete opposite.
went straight to church from the office. church is the only place and time i could be me, not a wife, mother or PA just ME and damn it feels good. funny how a woman's life changes after she gets married and have kids. to your husband you are honey or whatever pet name he calls you, to the kids you are mum and to others you are mrs....... what happened to my birth name for goodness sake. and dont get me started with the state of origin where you are expected to put the state your husband is from.
i have always rebelled with this that i insist on my colleagues calling me by my NAME (emphasy mine). and i still fill in my original state of origin. but lets be serious it says state of ORIGIN for crying out loud.
was still in the rebel mood when we got home so i practically told hubby to take care of the kids and went straight to bed. Ha!!

Tuesday, 24th March '09

'Mummy, my teacher said you should make my hair'......that's my older daughter speaking. i felt like telling her to tell the vixen to mind her bloody business but i know better. kids have tremendous memories; she'll tell her teacher exactly what i said word for word.

Today is typing day. had loads of reports to prepare. oh i crave for a massage right now. Had to sneek out to the general office for the latest 'news'........did i hear you say gossip?? we, the office gals labelled the general office our chat room, there's no current affair that you wont get there. i bet CNN officials will be envious because we get our news 'on the spot'.

Traffic home wasn't so bad. i was early enough to help my kids with home work and played with them and just generally be mummy. Hubby is complaining again that i dont give him enough attention. he says i put the kids first before him. maybe i do but right now the last thing i want is to have an argument so i just sweet talked him and the rest is history.

OLUOLA'S DIARY

This is to all the SISTAS who know a good read when they see one. ENJOY

Monday 23rd March '09.
it's already Monday morning! just my luck, i didnt get round to fixing my kids hair, shopping for the week & cooking.oh well, i'll find time to fix them into the week's schedule.
mondays are usually busy in the office what with my over bearing boss who expects the moon from me......i think he fancies me though.....YULK! the thought of it gives me the creeps. enough of shaggy (that's my boss by the way) and of course it's not his real name, i still want my job thank you.
was practically out of the office all day submitting tenders, checking on customers & shopping of course. i'll like to see the shopping part as the perk of the job. got back just enough to tidy up for the next day & off i go.
finally got home after 2 hrs of traffic. no time to change, straight to the kitchen to fix dinner. the kids were trying all the tricks in the world to get my attention but no can do for now mummy is too busy. where is a good hand when you need one??
oh great! its 9:30am, finally got round to cooking, feeding & sending the kids to bed. thankfully, no homework today. i have just enough time to eat & bath before going to bed. just when i was about to say nighty nite guess who came tugging for a little TLC.........

CLASSIC NOVELS/BOOKS IN AFRICA

HI EVERYONE,

THIS IS MEANT TO BE AN INAUGURAL POST. IN THE DAYS AND WEEKS TO COME YOU'D HAVE THE PLEASURE OF GOING ON ADVENTURE TRIPS INTO RHAPSODY OF THOUGHTS OR MIND JOURNIES AS EXPRESSED BY AN EVERYDAY WOMAN. SO JUST RELAX AND GET READY FOR AN EXPERIENCE OF A LIFETIME...

OLUOLA IS MY NAME. I AND MY TEAM ARE DOING A RESEARCH/PROJECT ON AFRICA CLASSIC NOVELS/BOOKS WITH SPECIAL EMPHANCY ON BOOKS IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN IN NIGERIA AND SOUTH AFRICA. THE RESEARCH IS NOT RESTRICTED TO THESE COUNTRIES ALONE, WE ARE OPEN TO RESEARCH FROM OTHER PARTS OF THE CONTINENT.

WE FEEL WE SHOULD INVOLVE EVERYBODY IN THE DIASPORA SINCE PUBLIC OPINION GIVES WEIGHT, TO A LARGE EXTENT, TO THE CONCLUSION OF OUR FINDINGS.

WE WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO TELL US YOUR 5 BEST NOVELS/BOOKS OF AFRICA ORIGIN AND ALSO ANALYSE ONE OF THEM NO MATTER HOW SMALL THE ANALYSIS WOULD BE.

A QUESTION CAME TO MY THOUGHT THOUGH! PLS WHO KNOWS FROM WHAT YEAR A BOOK IS PLACED IN PUBLIC DOMAIN IN NIGERIA AND SOUTH AFRICA? WE KNOW FROM OUR FINDINGS THAT ANY BOOK WRITTEN BEFORE 1923 IN U.S.A IS IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN .

YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS WILL BE APPRECIATED.

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LET DO IT TOGETHER,

OLUOLA