No Clue

I am actually in want of what to write, so i guess I'll just write as I'm led:
It's raining cats and dogs outside..... have you ever wondered why it is described as cats and dogs?? why not horse and bulls or cows and???? whatever.
The kids are resuming tomorrow....crap!! another bout of extra early waking up, preparing breakfast and lunch together, sorting out extra clothes for Mimi, ironing, the list is endless. i think i need a help. You hardly get a good help these days..... believe me I've had my fair share of helps, after i got to help number 7 i stopped counting. One stayed for as little as 3 days and decided she was done, her excuse?.....she was seeing her baby brother in the dream and decided it was a sign to go back home.
do you know that in some culture you practically pay the help's 'bride price' before you can take her. i mean her people will tell you to pay all sorts and at the end of the day she can decide not to even stay for up to a week. After so many tries i have thrown in the towel.....yep, no more helps for me. i'd rather invest in gadgets that'll help in the house like washing machine, vacuum cleaner
dishwasher et al. These make life much more easier and less complicated i'd say.
i think the girls have tired themselves out and have slept off; I'm not hearing any noise from their room. i have to go check on them and then call it a night. Ciao!!

Think Big

This is the title of a book i read so many years ago. it made a huge impression on me and i want to share some thoughts from the book................

- as long as you are satisfied that you have done your best, then that is all you have to do.
- the best way to please yourself is to know you've done the best for yourself that you can do.
- clothing is not important, houses, cars and bank account - none of these things are important. You know what is important? Knowledge and hard work - the abilities that allow you to acquire those things.
- ......if someone take all the cars, money and houses from you you can have it back if you have the appropriate knowledge and learn to use it. But if they take away your knowledge and your willingness to give your best, you have automatically lost everything that is important....and you won't get them back.
- recognize your talent, use them appropriately and chose a field that uses those talents, you will rise to the top of your field.
In case you are interested in reading the whole book it is written by Dr. Ben Carson.
Tara!!

Quote of the day

‘I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at.’
—Maya Angelou

STILL REMINISCING

Life doesnt always turn out the way we envisaged. As a child growing up, the whole world was at my fingertips (or so i thought). i had so many dreams and expectations on how my life will turn out. i remember telling my french teacher i will get married at 25years...as if.
When you are young you feel you can remote control your life; you say something and God help anyone who would say otherwise.

it still amazes me how our physical body grow and mature but leaving the little girl or boy inside. Truly, i am still the little girl i was when i was eight. i still want someone to catch me when i fly, i still want to dance in the rain......just writing about this brings so much sweet memories. i miss day dreaming about the future, how my husband will look like, how many kids i'll have and on. i have achieved all these and im thankful to God that they turned out great.
one thing i know i dont miss is going to primary school. i was a victim of bulling so i dont want to be back there.
i love being independent and being my own person so i guess every stage of life has its good and bad.

A tribute to my mum

I took this piece from my unpublished memoir :
in this life you have to force yourself to be content with what you have at any particular time and strive to better your lot. if you go about being envious of others you'll live a most miserable life. make the most of what you have and people will see the jewel in you.
my mother used to say every disappointment is a blessing and even if it isn't she'll force it to become a blessing for her.

some years back, my mum was very ill and doctors could not diagnose what the problem was, i was still a child then but i never forgot her confession; day and night mum kept muttering to her self 'i will not die'. Now that I'm older I've come to understand the power of our words. it was those words that actually kept her alive. she is over 60yrs and still waxing stronger.

my mother has always been a strong willed person; she can never apologize to a wrong because she doesn't think that she can do wrong. much as i detest that, i see a whole lot of her in me.
To people that are not close to me they think I'm all so sweet and gullible but people that know the real me know that I'm far from that. i can be so sweet and all but I'm nothing near gullible.
Life has taught me to expect anything from people because when you come right down to it people will be what they are...humans.

There are some things that i just don't understand in this life and i probably will not understand it in this lifetime; for instance, how can a man raise his hands on his wife or any woman for that matter; how can someone hate himself to the point of committing suicide; how can a man be gay what with all the fine sistas out there; how can someone be without being in love or at least having a crush on someone; how can someone not want to have a child.....the list goes on and on

Back To School

im sure at one time in our life we didnt like going to school and we just loved hols with a passion. well i was no1 in that dept at school. so today felt like one of those days after the long w/end.
work was a drag today. came home and my kids decided that mum needed a massage and massage they gave me. needless to say that at the end of the session i was covered from head to toe in dusting powder. it was hilarious but i had to allow them have their way. yea call me a sucker, couldnt stay without them for long so i had to go and pick them up from their granners.
im wondering now how to get the powder off my hair for work tomorrow.
im kind of distracted because my house is like a viewing center for the match btw chelsea and liverpool and the atmosphere is so tense because my in-law & hubby are chelsea fans and liverpool is gaining lead by 2 goals to nil. they have been offering unsolicited advise for chealsea since the game started!..... wait a minute Drogba just scored for chelsea! my house is in a frenzy right now....drinks are beginning to come out now:). i better go and play the perfect hostess and you guessed right, partake in the drinking frenzy . Wow Alex something just scored again this is geetting too good for me to miss. Tara!

Another Honeymoon

Hi y'all, im feeling like a newly wed again and im loving every bit of it.
After church, i sent my kids over to their granners so hubby and i can have quality time together and boy it is worth it. i have not felt this sexy for....... lets just say a while now. i wish i can have the heart to leave them there until the hol is over but i know myself after sometime now i'll start missing them. oh well, for now im having a ball with hubby.
sorry everyone i cant write for long, my prince charming is waiting.............

happy Good Friday

Happy Good Friday. i'm always in a good mood on Fridays especially the ones that is a public hols:) Those days of feeling under the weather are gone thankfully.

Remember i told you about the new relief staff, well it turns out that her husband is not only cheating on her but beating her as well. so yesterday, we initiated her into the sista's chatroom and gave her a lesson or two on how to stand on her grounds. i mean, this is a sista with assets; she has the 3 bs ( for the uninitiated, the 3 b stands for black, beautiful and brainy) and one no-gooder is just somewhere pounding on her like she's worthless.

the first thing we did was to give her advice on her to empower herself. i mean gone are those days when a woman's place is in the kitchen. she has to take control of her life and rebuild her self confidence then she can take it from there.

at the end of the day, she resolved to leave the bastard, that wasnt part of our advise though but she said that they have been living apart for two years now and all the while the guy has been living with his girlfriend while she has been hanging unto a marriage that is already in the gutters for the 'children's sake'.

mistake no 1 never hang unto a marriage for the children's sake. be there for your sake because there will come a time when the kids will be all grown up and leave the house then what would you do?? by then you would be old and grey and your whole life would have been spent on 'the children'. Like i've always said life is for living, loving and laughing. there's no point in being all bitter and resentful all your life just because of another human being.

now dont get me wrong, im not an advocate of divorce but when every thing has failed and the man is out there enjoying his life with another woman what should a woman do?

Today is good friday, we should take time to reflect on what Jesus did for us at the cross.

have a beautiful long weekend. lol.

SLOPPY MONDAY

You may be wondering what's with the title, well that is how i feel today. this is one of those days you wish will just go away and never, ever come back. it reminds me of a song's lyrics 'everything that could go wrong all went wrong at one time, so much pressure fell on me i thought i was going to loose my mind'.
i didnt feel like having any contact, just wanted to be on my own. my kids couldnt understand why i was being so grumpy and i couldnt explain to them without yelling at them.
maybe its the mood swing or PMS but whatever it is i sure dont want it.
today was uneventful at the office, i was pretty much on my own and i think the gals understood.
i thought writing this blog will bring out the spark in me but its just not doing it.
im off to bed now. hope tomorrow will be cheery.
ciao!

THANK GOD ITS FRIDAY

Sorry guys, no time to write yesterday. i was feeling a bit down and we all know that one can not write down anything meaningfully when the mind and body are not in tune with each other. anyway, took today off to rest and also attend my kids interhouse sports.
this is what i have been missing as a working mother. i really had a nice time cheering mimi. i want my kids to have fond memories of their growing up years just as i did. i resolved there and then that i would do everything within my capacity to always be there for them no matter what.
i am feeling a bit drowsy so i think i'll call it a night.

APRIL FOOL'S DAY

Hi guys, Happy April fools day. were you fooled today, please write in and tell me how you were fooled or was it the other way round. i was on my guard today and i sure wasnt fooled by any one.
if you ever want to fool any one go to my dad. he always got fooled by us and funny enough it was with the same line. i remeber my growing up years (not that im old though, i can still do heans and T-Shirt and still look drop dead gorgeous) did i hear you say dream on:), anyway back to my story, my siblings and i use to fight for who would get him firstand the line used to be 'dad, come quic your four tyres are down! and you will see him rushing out to see how he can manage the situation so as not to go late to work. we always had a good laugh when we finally them him that he had just been april fooled. he would promise not to be caught the next year but he always fell prey.
growing up was fun. we had pure and unadulterated fun. im still in contact with most of my childhood friends even had to go to facebook to contact some. yep! it was that good.
a new relief staff came in today for the lady that went on maternity, boy is she one bitter cookie. i bet sha has had her fair share of the world. ut keep your eyes wide open because i'll definitely get her scoop in our chat room.
trying to concentrate but me lil' lots want their mum so super mum to the rescue.....